Men...

..are Jerks?





most are, but not all, so no one freaking on me for classifying all men as jerks.. its mostly the two I seem to have to deal with.





Grow up people, stop being selfish and arrogent and whatever else it is you THINK you are doing.. its not helping the situation, thats why it is like it is...





Oh and yea when you give a child their stuff back, make sure you don't break and wreck half their things, my poor son had to throw out half his stuff becasue it jsut got thrown into boxes and wrecked..





Also, make sure you give back EVERYTHING to them that is theirs.. they are pissed that they are still missing things that they wanted, DVDs, x-box, games, trinkets.. etc... they want it ALL back.. And word of advice, when doing the toss it on the door knob and run.. make sure its not going to rain, and NEVER EVER EVER do that with gifts, things get wrecked and rained on, and what happeneds if someone takes soemthing..





Whoever decided that one needed to give their head a shake, totally, A person should NOT have to wash their childs b-day gifts becase the rain ruined them.. seriously.. for all you people out there who have done this before, just man up and knock on the door and hand it to someone, its easier that way.. even if its not being handed directly to the person that it is intented for, makes for a much nicer time, and a non-pissed off child becasue you weren't man enough to knock on the door.





I can't stress enough how much little tihngs like this jsut re-inforce to a child jsut how much respect YOU DON'T have for them.. and there is only so many times a mother can comfort her child because they have been let down again and again, it eventually makes the child not care and not even think about the other parent.





SO anyone out there reading this, that is doing this crap to there kid, or other crap as such to their kids, STOP, its not hurting anyone but the child. Take it from a mother that is still going through it , the kdis are not happy with the other parent, its stressfull on them and the whole household.. they are kids, let them be kids, they should not have to deal with big people issues..





Thats your thing, if you have an issue, keep it to yourself, don't involve the children, don't make them feel guilty, don't make them feel horrible about themselves if they choose something you don't like.. and make sure they are not ever hurt in your home by anyone that may be near them... they remember every little detail of every little thing.. be kind and nice and loving.. hug them and kiss them tell them they are wonderful and awesome and support them with ANYTHING they want to do even if it is NOT something you would do, who cares if they have orange hair or a nose piercing.. that sort of stuff will always change, it makes them no different on the inside, you can't control every little thing about them..





They love you for you, not because you work here or don't work there.. they love you becasue you are their parent.. so love them becasue they are your child, and not becasue you want them to be this or be that.. it will all come in time, who and what they are going to be.. Forcing thme is not gonna help.. jsut be their for them and support them and lov them, becasue they are the beautiful and special people that they were born to be.